It's been a great month and a half or so here in Tennessee. Spring is in the air, the sunshine is out, and the sounds of good old-timey Bluegrass Gospel are in the air. I'm referring to the new album recently released by The Gilbert Family, whom I play lead/rhythm guitar and sing with. It's called The Promise...
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If you've ever wondered why you are the way you are, perhaps you never ran across a little test called the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (or MBTI) test.
After having a particularly stressful, unorganized day, I decided to try out the test for myself to see if it would shed any light on my own personal quirks and mannerisms as well as my views and opinions of life.
Let's just say it's nice to finally get a clear picture of why I am the way I am and how to make the most of my unique qualities as—according to the MBTI—an INFJ.
Alone No More
Recently, I've been experiencing...what I wouldn't exactly call mood swings, per se...more like frustration with not being more productive and getting "just one more thing" done.
For the longest time I've felt alone in my seemingly hopeless search for peace with the fact that I simply can't get everything on my to-do lists done and that I don't have to beat myself up because of it. (I'm sure you're familiar with the saying "The inbox is never empty.")
Alone, that is, until I discovered many others who share the same quirks, mannerisms, and thought processes as me...an INFJ, according to the MBTI.
Enter the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Personality Test
Not too long ago, while doing some research on writing fiction, I had heard about using the MBTI as a way to flesh out more realistic characters and make sure they stay true to their own personalities.
I had been putting off researching about the MBTI for a long time until recently, when I finally got frustrated enough to use it on myself.
What I found finally gave me hope of at least learning to live with my personality, if not taming it.
Take the same test I took by clicking the image above to see what type you are.
INFJ: The Advocate
According to the test, I'm categorized as an INFJ. These letters correspond to one of 16 personality types that were discovered by the legendary psychologist Carl Jung which were then organized by the Myers-Briggs team.
For myself and other INFJ's—who make up only 1 to 2 percent of the population—these letters correspond to what Jung considered the "four principal psychological functions" by which humans experience the world around us. In the case of INFJ's, they are as follows:
I = Introvert
N = Intuition
F = Feeling
J = Judgment
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INFJ: I is for Introversion
So, just what is an introvert?
According to Dictionary.com, an introvert is, as it relates to psychology:
"A person characterized by concern primarily with his or her own thoughts and feelings (opposed to extrovert)."
After reading the results of my own test and finding out I was an INFJ, I was amazed at how accurate the results were. This definition may not look like much, but when I saw the way the test expounded on small definition, it was like the people behind the scenes were reading my mind.
As I began to analyze my own life, I saw that I was, in fact, an introverted person. Sure, people who know me best see me as a fun-loving cut-up, but when I'm behind closed doors...I like to be alone behind them.
It's not that I'm unsociable; rather, it's that I like to have time to process what's going on in my head. (Which probably explains why I love journaling—aka "thinking on paper"—so much.)
I've found—even before the MBTI—that I work best that way. It's an extremely daunting process, but until I can work out the details of whatever I'm so deep in thought about, I don't feel complete or whole in any way.
But once I've had time to process the thoughts and emotions I'm feeling, I feel a renewed sense of energy, completion, and satisfaction that I just can't get otherwise.
INFJ: N is for Intuition
For me personally, I think the intuition portion of my INFJ personality hit the nail on the head more than all the other aspects.
For the most part, I like to be organized, at least to the point of getting started and getting some momentum behind me. When it comes to my guitar courses, I'm a natural outliner; I like to have a clear plan to follow so I'm not rambling around aimlessly trying to get to the end of a project.
But when it comes to writing, I can't quite decide which direction I want to take.
I've been delving into the many books I own—and have recently purchased—on writing, some of which advocate outlining (aka plotting), and some of which advocate writing without an outline, or "by the seat of your pants" (aka "pantsing").
The problem is, I'm too involved in the research of writing to be progressing with the actual writing itself. Deep down, I know this is one of the major fears I must overcome to be successful in my writing goals, but how to do it?
"Trust the Process." - Unknown
"Trusting the process" is one of the many aspects I discussed in my recent article/review of a wonderful book on writing by Dean Wesley Smith. Basically, it means "trust your intuition." And being an INFJ, this is exactly what I needed to hear when I first read the book.
Other writing books quote similar passages. One of my favorites even mentions that, as a writer and avid reader, chances are I'm "already following a common story structure without even knowing it." Therefore, I should trust my intuition to guide me in the storytelling process, having read so many great stories that have no doubt imprinted on my psyche the basic elements of story structure (drama, tension, climax, etc.).
Another interesting point just occurred to me: This entire blog post—and most of my other posts—was written by the seat of my pants. Sure, I had a small idea of what I wanted to cover in this post, but for the most part I've been winging it the whole time!
This goes to show that I should just throw caution to the wind with fiction, as I have with non-fiction pieces like blog posts and journal entries—which are also written without the help of an outline.
Again, if I can just allow myself to trust my intuition, there's a great chance that my "gut feeling" won't lead me astray—not just in writing, but in all areas of life.
And speaking of "feelings"...
INFJ: F is for Feeling
According to the website where I took the free personality test:
Feeling individuals are sensitive and emotionally expressive. They are more empathetic and less competitive than Thinking types, and focus on social harmony and cooperation (emphasis mine).
I'm definitely an emotionally-charged person. I'll admit, the waterworks begin to flow the moment I even sense an emotional moment in a movie is about to happen: a family reunited with their lost loved one, the death of a family pet, the loss of true love. I'm not ashamed; I can cry with the best of them. It's just who I am.
Many people would think that a weird thing. Not INFJ's. They get it.
Not only that, but I can definitely empathize with others in their own emotionally traumatic states. I find myself constantly being the one who has the need to reach out and comfort others in their time of anguish. I may not know what to do, but I've found that listening—yet another aspect of INFJ's—is a much better strategy than trying to give suggestions.
The problem is, it's easy to let feelings get in the way. Just as any other aspect of INFJ's (Introvert, Intuition, Feeling, Judgment) can be a strength, they can also be a weakness. The important thing is to find balance when it comes to utilizing your personality type and it's quirks, regardless of what it may be.
INFJ: J is for Judgment
This last one's a bit tricky. The judgment aspect of INFJ's doesn't mean that we're judgmental of others; far from it. Rather, it denotes a preference to decisiveness, organization, planning, structure, clarity, and the like.
I find this a bit tricky when you look at the main component of INFJ's: intuition. I've still got a lot to learn about this personality type, but on the surface it seems to me that it can lead to a potential clash within one's own mind if INFJ's are both intuitive (free to explore, be curious, be imaginative, etc.) and judgmental (organized, structured, etc.).
I also find myself wondering if the popular right brain/left brain theories have anything to do with this potential clash of interests. The right, creative side of the brain is constantly at war with the left, logical side. When writing by the seat of your pants, in order to silence the inner critic (left brain), you must plow forward and allow your creative side (right brain) to take over. The left, critical side has its purpose, but only for later, when your first draft is finished.
Looking at this clash in the brain/personality leads me to believe that this could be the answer I've been searching for as to why I want to write but never seem to get around to it. Dean Wesley Smith calls it the
"critical mind" in his book. Steven Pressfield refers to it as "Resistance" in his book The War of Art. Point being: The right and left brains are constantly at each other's throats (for lack of a better phrase).
Whatever you choose to call it, there always seems to be something that wants to keep you from achieving the goals you most want to achieve. If you're an INFJ, you just have to be willing to silence those unproductive voices in your head and start listening to your intuition and feelings.
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A Great Resource for INFJ Writers
While in my search for INFJ's like me—especially in the writing community—I came across one particular site that piqued my interest very much.
A writer by the name of Lauren Sapala, also an INFJ, has a wonderful blog for INFJ's who struggle with some of the problems I've mentioned above as well as more writing-specific hurdles to overcome.
When I first found her blog, I must have read seven or eight—or a dozen—blog posts she'd written specifically tailored to Introverts, INFJ's, and INFP's. One I found extremely helpful—and liberating—was an article entitled "Introverted And Intuitive? Why The Writing Rules Probably Don't Work For You."
Not an INFJ? No Problem!
With only 1 to 2 percent of the population making up the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator of INFJ, I wouldn't be surprised if you didn't fit into this category; I was surprised I even managed to.
The best thing you can do is find out what your personality type most likely is by taking the test I mentioned at the top of this post.
Just make sure you answer the questions as truthfully as possible; even double-check your answers if you have to. (This of course means that you answer them according to how you really are as opposed to how you want to be perceived!)
It's a fun way to pass the time, it's free, and it's likely to help you discover more about yourself than you ever knew before.
All this being said, I am NOT affiliated in any way with the test, and I'm sure there are things I don't entirely agree with, seeing as how I haven't thoroughly researched the subject myself.
So my "official" disclaimer for this post is that I am NOT a psychologist, psychiatrist, or licensed practitioner of any sort; nor to I play one on TV.
Take this test with a dose of common sense and use your best judgment when taking the advice of anyone or anything on the Internet. I endorse the test for entertainment purposes only; nothing more.
Now, go have some good, clean fun, and learn a few things while you're at it.
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Recently, I’ve been devouring a whole book’s worth of amazing tips on the art and craft of writing. (These tips are mainly for fiction writers, but non-fiction writers can benefit from them as well.) As a result, I’m learning more quality information about how to write better than I ever thought I could in one place. Best of all, these tips—96 in total—are actually FREE. I can hardly believe it because they’re worth their weight in gold. And if you’ll apply these tips on how to write better in your own writing, I’m confident you’ll succeed.
A Book on Writing Fiction…Compiled from Free Tips
Since “officially” beginning my writing journey back in October 2014, I’ve been soaking up every writing resource I’ve come across like a sponge. As such, I’ve compiled many resources on writing and how to write better, and I’ve got tons more to contribute to my Writing Resources page, but possibly none so valuable as what I’m about to share with you now.
Just six days before Christmas, a former student dropped by to give me the surprise of a lifetime…
A Very Merry Christmas To Me
It was Friday, December 19, 2014. I was getting ready for my last guitar student of the day when I received a text from a former student (Pat).
“What’s your schedule look like today?” the text read.
“I’ve got a lesson coming up in a few minutes, then I’m free til around 5:30 p.m. What’s up?” I replied.
“Wanted to bring by some Christmas cheer!” Pat said.
“Okay,” I said. “Where are you? We can do lunch.”
3 Extraordinary Planners that Will Help Move You Toward Your Goals
A Shift in Planner “Status Quo”
While on my search for a new weekly planner earlier this month, I first considered ordering the same style I’ve been using for 2014. Confident I had settled in my decision, I began to search for it online and had almost purchased it when I ran across a different, more unique planner.
And when I first laid eyes on it, I knew it was the next planner I would be trying out for the new year in 2015.
This newfound planner wasn’t like the ordinary one I had been using all year with the typical format most offer: Monthly layout with daily/weekly slots for filling in the same old overwhelming tasks and projects. You see, I had experienced a calendar overload in 2014, and I was ready for a change.
No, this one was extraordinary; what you might call a “Next Level” planner. It didn’t have any “bells and whistles” or try to impress me; rather, it had all the tools I needed to inspire me to take massive actions that moved me toward my goals.
But before I go into the details and benefits of this particular planner, I would first like to introduce a few other options I discovered—and also found very intriguing—along the way. Let’s see if you can guess which planner I chose…no skipping ahead, either!